I feel that people really need to improve on their sincerity when it comes to giving presents, giving a treat or asking for someone's hand (aka proposal). It's Mother's Day today, so this topic really rings the sincerity bell when talking about "giving".
I really detest the idea of asking someone what they want before giving a present. You should be sincere enough to go and find out what they want indirectly. Why try to give something for the sake of giving without putting in effort? If you want to give, you give with sincerity... if you don't want to give, don't try to look for an easy way out to show how insincere you are. It's the thought of putting into what to give that is admirable, not literally what the present is. I think EVERYBODY should really do a review on themselves, same for those who ask for specific presents directly.
Definitely, nobody wants to give something that the receiver doesn't want. Then we should be putting some thought into it! Just to facilitate this logic, we ask the receiver. If I am the receiver, I would say that I could buy it myself if I want, you think I don't have the money to buy what I am going to tell you? Surprise is the key. Don't everyone feels happy when someone really notice what you need and get it for you as a present in a surprise? It doesn't have to be any festival or a reason to celebrate.
My younger brother does not celebrate my birthdays or anything specifically. However, he takes the effort to choose and buy me presents when he comes back from other countries. I always appreciate them and I love him for that.
My mum didn't agree immediately to go out with the family today because she says she's going for swimming. So it seems like we may not go to lunch and she never suggests alternative. Even though, we asked her out but seems like this is in second priority to her other WEEKLY ACTIVITIES. In this case, I don't suggest that I show any sincerity for this event because even the recipient does not want in.
Givers and recipients should review on themselves nowadays. Everything is taken for granted.
